Female Dating Advice - Online

From a man's perspective, when it comes to online dating, many women seem to write poor online dating ads. Just like women hate one-line replies, men hate ads that are incredibly boring. If you want to succeed at online dating as a woman, you can follow these simple, pragmatic rules that will help ensure you do not miss what could be the initial step of something terrific. These pieces of female dating advice can be employed at any of the Online Dating sites that are reviewed on this website:

• Never post a photo of you embracing your beautiful and sexy teen-age daughters. It will increase the number of responses, but not necessarily from men you want to meet. Also, if you do meet men subsequently, they will certainly be turned off that you have aged considerably since the photo was taken.

• Unless you’re a lesbian seeking a lesbian don’t listen to your female friends’ comments about your ad. They are not your target audience. For example, men seldom use the word “cute” without the word “kid” immediately following.

• If a guy sees “the kids are in college, now it’s time for me” he might wonder whether you did anything else over the past 20 years that you can talk about.

• Give up the “spiritual but not religious” thing. Just say you’re a Unitarian and move on.

• Be descriptive, as in: “I own 3 little red dresses, a ball gown and 5 pairs of jeans.” This avoids the “. . . as comfortable in jeans as I am in a ball gown” cliché men are assaulted by all the time. They will be grateful for this.

• Dump the phrase “passionate about life.” It’s a baseline requirement given the alternatives.

• Be specific about your enjoyment of the outdoors. Try, “I enjoy nature. My ideal experience is a day hike followed by dinner at a great eating establishment nt and and the warmth of down comforters at a B&B.” Otherwise, you could find yourself hooked up with a man who also loves the outdoors but thinks buffalo hunting is a great first date.

• Fitness and health are always important. However, declaring you work out at the gym 7 days a week, take yoga classes at lunch, and run marathons on the weekend is going to make a man wonder if you’ll have any time for him. And if you find someone equally fascinated by fitness you should consider the downside of having two obsessive-compulsives living under one roof.

• If you say, “I would like to meet a man who is part of my world, someone educated, traveled, and with broad cultural interests” then don’t say that a man’s income isn’t important to you. Truth is always the best policy.

• Please be clear. “I enjoy a wide range of activities but what I like best is . . .” works fine. But saying you equally love dining out/cooking at home, the symphony/the blues, gardening/mountain climbing and so on, gives a man no clue. He might get the idea a half-pound burger with greasy fries and a football game on TV will make you just as happy as a tennis weekend in Napa and dinner at the French Laundry. You also lose your right to be indignant when he walks in the door with a greasy bag and asks, “Where’s the ketchup?”

• Above all, don’t treat men as if they are stupid. If you are divorced, and live in a community where the median home price is $5 million-plus, you are not self employed. When men consider demographics and common sense, these facts tell men that you are likely an attractive, intelligent woman who did very well when your CEO husband left you for his secretary. And, that’s not necessarily a bad thing to disclose.